Lifestyle Consultants

Now, Hitch was a fun and romantic movie. The charismatic Will Smith plays an image consultant who breaks down the dating game for desperate singles and helps them find true love. Don’t be surprised if people find this such a great idea that there is a huge boost in the community of pick-up artists, dating advisors and image consultants. You can also find a growing collection of related books which generally can be summarized as teaching you to be yourself while emphasizing the qualities that appeals to the opposite sex.

In my opinion, all these resources are nothing more than crap.

Come on. The media has created a love delusion that guys are to be athletic, macho, well-established, suave, tall, responsible, caring and well, you get the point. Ladies are to be gorgeous, tall, sexy, well-dressed and well-groomed. If you took a walk in the city, you will probably get a smack on the head by reality that the percentage of the population with the expected qualities is so low, you have a higher chance of hitting the lottery.

Not to mention, do you know how bad it makes you feel to fail to live up to society’s standards? People get confused that if they are not getting the girl or the guy of their dreams then they must be doing something wrong. Take a look around. Most people just make do with what they can get. It is the few that wants to be turned into a human magnet or have a boost in confidence that enlist the help of a mentor or a guide.

Confidence is the number one turn-on factor for both sexes. For ladies, they like someone not affected by others and know what he wants. It is almost the first rule of thumb. But once again, they are just teaching you to be yourself. That is not to say they are not helping. They add a little of their assurance that they know what women want and they want you. For men, they take pleasures in sight meaning that ladies primarily need to be eye candy. Nowadays, help for ladies commonly comes in the forms of packaging or cosmetic surgeries. These also boost self-confidence.

What is so special about confidence? It allows you to carry a conversation, move and act naturally. Of course, no one wants to feel uncomfortable or awkward so translate that and you get the “be yourself” conclusion once again.

You should have caught on by now that all these hired help is just a motivation for you to improve yourself (Nothing that you shouldn’t be able to operate yourself). Not to mention, some people are just resistant to change. In these cases, I doubt these experts will have much success in providing useful advice anyways.

So, before you commit on the hefty fees these professionals charge, try to change your lifestyle to improve your health, energy and image. You will be pleasantly surprised at how fast things change. Remember - small steps, one at a time.